Weight-Loss Apocalypse

WATCH ALL 90 MINUTES!!! This is our first consultation...She reached out thinking she needed help with her binge eating disorder and she didn't disclose she was molested as a child. She eventually opens up about that childhood trauma, not thinking her desire to be thinner, had anything to do with being molested. We go through a process of re-contextualizing what happened, so that she can forgive her stepfather, and recognize her body had nothing to do with it. It was HIS trau ma that he struggled to understand and resolve. This consult is the first time she addressed her childhood perceptions and coping mechanisms from that trauma. RECORDED NOVEMBER 2017  # traumabonding   # thinsupremacy   # bodyimage   # weightlossapocalypse   # codependency   # ed   # eatingdisorder   # bed   # bingeeating   # ana   # bulimia   # trauma   # complexptsd   # recovery   # forgiveness   # grace   # context

Robin discusses how important it is to tell yourself the truth if you want to recover from an eating disorder. She describes her own suffering, as she unconsciously repressed the truth and cognitive dissonance because it felt too scary and painful to face. Going into denial is a way to NOT change when the truth seems catastrophic to your self concept. This client has struggled to surrender her emotional desires to be thinner and she convinced herself she was ready to do the hCG protocol again. Despite the fact that Robin had discouraged her from doing it again, she convinced herself she was all healed and did it anyways. Unfortunately, she relapsed as she attached to the weight loss, became afraid to regain weight, and her eating disorder resurfaced. RECORDED NOVEMBER 2017

This is our initial 90 minute consult, and we discuss her issues struggling with emotional eating and the guilt and shame she has thinking she's inadequate. Her beliefs have high expectations, without giving room and grace for what's realistic. She's approach her body image the same way. RECORDED NOVEMBER 2017 #bodyimage #thinsupremacy #weightlossapocalypse #perfectionism #diet #emotionaleating #ed #eatingdisorders #dietbingedietcycle #ana #anorexia #bingeeating #recovery

This client is struggling back and forth, in and out of recovery. Her biggest struggle is that she is still hoping for weight loss. She weighs over 250 pounds, which to her is the problem and focus of her mind. What she hadn't seen is that the focus on weight as the problem, is what has created a distorted and strained relationship between dieting and overeating. She recognizes her emphasis on her weight going up or down, is perpetuating her stress around food and resultant overeating. When she allows herself to look at NOT losing weight, and to feel the negativity attached to accepting what has happened to her body in her "battle with weight," the clenching grip that the diet/binge/diet cycle has on her mind loosens. This willingness to face the shame, embarrassment, and the truth of the body, with the humility to admit failure and loss, is where freedom opens up. Accepting your body is the door to releasing your mind from the grips of the eating disorder between diet...

THE IMPORTANCE OF FORGIVENESS....Through compassion. The only way for her to get past the emotional eating that she does when she feels agitated by her relationship with her father, is to accept him the way he is...and to stop rescuing him. For many people who have a negative history with an important relationship, it can be easier to numb and distract from anger and resentment, so you don't say or do something you'll regret. It can feel like eating or drinking keeps you from expressing your true feelings. RECORDED NOVEMBER 2017 #thinsupremacy #weightlossapocalypse #emotionaleating #bingeeating #ed #ana #codependency #dramatriangle #resentment #anger #victimrole #forgiveness #acceptance #grace #freedom #recovery @weightlossapocalypse

ACCEPTING JUDGMENT AND REJECTION...We discuss the truth that important people in your life can be critical of you. Her toddler son told her she was ugly. It is an inevitable aspect of being a pack animal that survives in groups of people. To recover from the shame of body image, it is imperative you accept that your body will be judged and shamed by people who are defined by body image. They project the importance of body image onto others., and the only way to not be influenced by their issues with body image is to accept judgment and rejection about your life and body. RECORDED NOVEMBER 2017 #bodyimage #thinsupremacy #weightlossapocalypse #rejectionandabandonment #grace #survivalmode #maslowshierarchyofneeds #belonging #ed #eatingdisorders #ana #bed #bingeeatingdisorder #recovery #forgiveness

She jumped on another round of the hCG protocol, thinking she was ready to do it for medical reasons. However, she wasn't prepared for how the restrictions and the desire to lose weight can rebound after, and ultimately increase the risk of diet/binge eating behavior. After having experienced recovery, and then impulsively starting another round of the protocol, she is recognizing the diet/binge cycle has returned. Robin asks her to be honest with herself about why she jumped into the protocol. RECORDED OCTOBER 2017 #weightlossapocalypse #thinsupremacy #bodyimage #dietbingedietcycle #emotionaleating #eatingdisorders #ed #bed #bingeeating #recovery #hcgdiet

Her recovery starts slipping as she struggles to accept her father's immaturity, and she starts to feel resentment and burdened by him. Her desire to eat emotionally increased as she sought to compensate herself for being negatively put out by him. Her unresolved codependent relationship with him, keeps her in a codependent relationship with food. In this case, the trigger isn't body image so much as it is resent and bitterness, and feeling the need to compensate herself with food. Ultimately, the need to diet is necessary to enable and allow emotional eating, when a person continues to hold a body image in her mind. RECORDED OCTOBER 2017 #weightlossapocalypse #thinsupremacy #resentment #blame #dramatriangle #codependency #forgiveness #ed #emotionaleating #recovery #bingeeatingdisorder #bingedietbingecycle

HE TOLD HER SHE WAS LAZY. She tried to talk with her husband about her decision to stop trying to lose weight, and his response was to be angry at her. When a person that hasn't suffered as much, tries to convince you it isn't that hard and you can do more and succeed, it can be very difficult to help them understand. We discuss the importance of validating your own misery and suffering, without needing to convince others you should take care of yourself. RECORDED OCTOBER 2017 #thinsupremacy #weightlossapocalypse #bodyimage #survivalmode #bingeeatingdisorder #bed #emotionaleating #ana #ed #eatingdisorders #recovery